A three minute guide to relationships

The other week I mentioned I was meant to be going on a date but it was postponed at the last minute.

It would have been my first date since the start of the year.

As I said in that blog post, I wasn’t ready until now. But now I am. Very much so.

We did eventually meet.

Thankfully I’ve never had a ‘terrible’ date (from my point of view anyway – you’d have to ask them for their view).

But, although she was a lovely woman, we had nothing in common.

So, after a couple of drinks we parted with a ‘nice to meet you’ and no pretence either side of a second date.

But that’s fine. It’s always nice to meet new people and learn a bit more about life.

Last week I got chatting online to another women who I really hope to meet soon.

Actually, I’m chatting to a couple but that’s not unusual for online dating and often it leads to nothing. A lot of online pre-screening goes on, on both sides!

But I really like this one woman in particular – her sense of humour, style, intelligence and manner are great – as well as the other important things (eg she’s really beautiful with a lovely smile – and I’m a sucker for a lovely smile!)

And she also has great English (she’s Spanish), despite not being sure she does – the opposite of how a lot of people view their foreign language skills. It’s really sweet.

It got me thinking about relationships in general. I’ve been single now for less than a year but that’s still the longest I’ve been single since I was in my early 20s.

I think it’s been good for me. I’ve grown a lot this year.

But I am a little bit worried I’m getting too comfortable with being single. I never thought it would be, but it seems like single-life could be an easy trap to fall in to.

Anyway, it made me think of one of my favourite movie scenes. The ‘idiosyncrasies’ scene in Good Will Hunting.

It sums up relationships better in just three minutes than a library of books could, or most experts could in a lifetime, so I thought I’d share it with you.

Amazingly, it was actually ad-libbed and not scripted.

Whether you’ve seen it before or not, it’s three minutes well spent.

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  1. Bea

    7th September 2015 at 7:20 pm

    You’re very sweet.


  2. John

    7th September 2015 at 7:39 pm

    Thanks Bea, you too x


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